After reading Susan Ziggy’s book, Things To Do Before You Say I Do! I realise that expecting a ‘shotgun’ marriage at age 16 to ever work was living in cloud cuckoo land.
And even the second marriage was doomed to fail, because it was done out of need, without seeking proper advice. Even if advice was available back then, nobody in my sphere would have considered it, apart perhaps from seeking an Astrological compatibility chart, or having a quick meeting with the local priest. I don’t even remember what they said at those meetings.
As Ziggy says, we all need to feel valued and loved, but rushing into marriage is not a good idea and I would suggest you read this worthy tome before you even think about tying the knot. With a tone of teacherly authority, Ziggy takes readers through all the stages from dating to empty nest syndrome, advising on the art of compromise, the value of maintaining traditions (something I would never have considered important) and provides a helpful questionnaire to do with your prospective partner, but also with friends and relatives.
She not only shows readers how proper communication, both verbal and via body language, is vital to maintain a happy marriage, but she also covers the ‘games people play’. Saying sorry is one of the most important things to remember in a relationship. Nothing is left to chance here, with topics ranging from replacing the toilet paper to flirting and cheating.
Ziggy ends the book with some very insightful interviews with couples who have been married more than 20 years.
I would recommend Things To Do Before You Say I Do! to anyone considering marriage or a partnership of any kind.
Leone Mary Britt